Updated: Feb 5, 2019
There is life after the wedding, but the type of life depends on the seeds that you sew before the marriage. Be intentional about your marriage...your life.
When I first got engaged all I could think about was the wedding. What type of gown would I wear? Who would be my bridemaids? Will we have enough money to pay for the wedding? All questions that I asked as we prepared for the wedding. Never once did I ask how to be a wife or how to take care of my husband or even what will life be after the wedding? I can remember it like it was yesterday, even though we walked down the aisle November 25, 1989.
The sun was shining. It was about 70 degrees outside and I, a 19 year old, took my first steps into a life unknown. As I took those steps, I had no clue what I was getting into. Marriage. It was glamorized on television, but not one show, that I can recall, ever taught you how to stay married. I never saw anything that focused on the marriage after the wedding.
I am here to tell you that there’s life after the wedding. Don’t get me wrong, I enjoyed my wedding day and I think you should cherish every moment, but I also think the reality of marriage should be something on your mind before the big day instead of the next day after the wedding. I remember it so vividly, I walked into our apartment and I asked myself now what? Honestly, I asked myself now what? What am I supposed to do? I was four months pregnant, so I was already a little emotional, but sitting on that couch with tears running down my face I honestly had no clue. Definitely an uncomfortable feeling. Today, I can say that I now understand the importance of the wedding, but the significance of the marriage.
Marriage is more than just a union between two people. It’s a covenant with God. It’s to be valued and treasured as anything that’s precious. It’s just like building muscles, the more you work at it, the stronger it gets. If you are engaged to be married, enjoy the planning of the wedding, but don’t forget the value of the marriage. If you are married remember marriage is about exploring the relationship. Growing together in the life that God has blessed you with. Even though the realities of marriage can sometimes be hard it’s still doable as long as you are intentional about making the marriage a priority.